Better Conversations MeansÂ
- Deeper Connections: In your dating life, in your marriage, with your colleagues, and with your neighbors. (And with all those friends you're about to make!)
- More Opportunities: Doors don't open in life to the competent. They open to the connected. Conversational fluency will expand your world in ways you can't even imagine yet.
- Confidence - Conversational skills give you confidence to talk to that person, ask for that sale, go to that party, or even just say hi to that neighbor.
I'm not saying conversation fixes everything, but it's certainly a powerful push in the right direction!
MY STORY:
Hi, I'm awkward Cole. When it comes to social faux pas: You name it… I’ve done it.Â
Here's how it went for me (tell me if this resonates with you): I started into life focusing on knowledge and competency (get good at something and people will celebrate you right?). Oh how your 20's lie to you!Â
And after climbing the ladder of competency, I started to experience some pretty confusing things
- People getting promoted who were less competent than me
- Finding out I was coming off differently than I intended
- Launching into meetings or conversations only to find out my instincts were wrong about what to say/do.
It's just confusion at first: "What's going on here?"
And then when I couldn't find the answers I needed from books, colleagues or friends it became something stronger: anger.
Why on earth are there implicit social rules with remarkably explicit consequences?
And I let that anger stick around too longer and turned into bitterness.
That bitterness just created more friction at work and in my relationships and lead to worst part:Â lonliness.
Listen:Â I don't care about conversational tools or neat social hacks. I care about you being connected to others because no matter who you are: you are worthy of connection and you are made for connection.Â
And if you've been looking for a place to develop the skills you need.....read on. Or join us now.Â
“I always kinda felt like… people don’t quite get me and I don’t quite get people. Cole’s content has been instrumental in changing that. I can feel my confidence growing. I am looking forward to conversations, not dreading them. At almost 50, I feel like my life is just beginning and I owe a lot of that to this course.”
“I was really excited to start the course to see if I could improve as a conversationalist and stop beating myself up after every interaction. I’m happy to say that I learned a ton of tools that I have been implementing in my everyday life, from small talk to a whole guide on the right kind of questions to ask. I had an epiphany during each lesson, even the ones that I thought didn’t apply to me. So if you are looking to stop dreading every social interaction because you put your foot in your mouth and you want to make real changes, check this course out. You won’t regret it.”
-Lori Ehmke
“I yearned for more meaningful conversation and deeper connections. I ended up taking Cole’s Conversations Course and it was eye opening as to how many small details I was failing to consider, from my facial expressions and body language to how to reframe questions that keep the conversation going. When I struck up a conversation with a stranger at a restaurant recently, I was so pleasantly surprised with how smoothly our conversation flowed. I no longer find myself relying on the weather to open conversations. I’m far more confident in my ability to start and carry conversations as well as to know when and how to end one.”
If I had to rate the enjoyment I get from talking to people on a scale of 1 to 10, i’d say before applying the things in the course it was maybe a 6, but now I would say it’s a 9! Truly, would recommend it to anybody.
What's in the Course
- Module 1: Never Run Out Of Things to talk About
- Intention:Â The sneaky thing ruining mostÂ
- Curiosity:Â Restore childlike curiosity with these 3 questions
- Module 2: Questions:
- Drop It:Â This word is making people defensive
- Threads:Â The little clues that your missing (or forgetting to give)
- Wearing and Carrying: The physical cues everyone gives you that you are missing
- Module 3: More Than WordsÂ
- Foundations for non-verbal communication
- Tell Your Face:Â What your (and their) face is actually saying in conversation
- Don't Be Siri:Â Using vocal inflection properly in conversation
- Body Language:Â The Loudest voice in the conversation
- Module 4: OARR Method
- Putting it all together; my framework for daily conversations
- Module 5: How to End a Conversation (And Other Miscellaneous Skills)
- Can't Stop, Won't Start:Â How to end a conversation
- Common Conversational Traps:Â The traps I see people fall into the most and how to navigate them
- How to Have a Breakfast Meeting: A very specific breakdown
- Misc of Misc: Seating, Cups, Rapport Testing with Body Posture
- Technology and Conversation: How to use technology to make in person conversations better
